When Should We Have Our Life Together

When I was a teenager, I thought I knew it all and had complete control of my life. When I was in my 20's I really knew that I had it all together. It wasn't until I was in my late 30's that I bought my first house and then I became a dad on my 40th birthday...That's when I realized that I wasn't as together as I thought.

There's so much pressure on us to have it all together and it can take a while. Sometimes a person can be in their 50's (like me) and still not have it all figured out. A recent study took a look at the different ages that people should accomplish things in life and the ages are a lot older than they used to be.

In the '80s, most of us that were around 20 years old were able to live on our own and not rely on our parents for money. Fast forward to 2021 and that age is closer to 25 years old.

At What Age Did Our Parents Start A Family

When my parents and grandparents were young, it was common for them to get married and start a family around 19 or 20 years old. My mom was 19 when she got married and was 20 when I burst upon the scene. Today the average age for marriage and kids is almost 30 years old.

I wonder what age it'll be by the time my daughter, Tara begins to think about such stuff. She's 16 years old and she wants to accomplish so many things. Recently we had a conversation and we talked about her future and what she wants to do.

I told her that just because the world tells you what you should or shouldn't accomplish by a certain age, doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with what you want to do. Give it a try and see what happens.

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She has her own, Youtube channel, "Paranormal Girl." She is in the Chenango Valley play, "High School Musical" playing the part of Taylor McKessie. She dances, works at Price Chopper, and she can't wait to go to Path of Life Camp this summer.

She's still my little girl and I want to keep her forever, but I also know that someday I'll have to let her go. So whether she wants to be independent at 18 or 80 years old, it won't change a thing.

I'll always be her dad and I'll always be there to help if she needs me. I told her that she has to be out of the house by 30...okay 35 at the latest.