At What Age Should You Have Your Life Together?
When I was a teenager, I thought I knew it all and had complete control of my life. When I was in my 20’s, I really knew that I had it all together. But it wasn’t until I was in my late 30’s that I bought my first house and then I became on dad on my 40th birthday. Then I realized that I wasn't as together as I thought.
There’s so much pressure on people to have it all together these days and it can take a while. Sometimes a person can be in their 50’s, like me, and still not have it all figured out.
A new study took a look at the different ages that people should accomplish things in life and the ages are definitely a lot older than they used to be.
When I was younger, most people who were 18 or 19 years old were able to live on their own and not rely on their parents for money. The age that most people are able to accomplish that today is 25.
When my parents and grandparents were young, it wasn’t uncommon for them to get married and start their family around the age of 19 or 20. My Mom was 19 when she got married and was 20 when I entered the world. The age today is now 29.5 years old.
My daughter, Tara, is on Spring Break this week and yesterday (4/16), we went for lunch and then shopping. She bought a couple of spring outfits, my shopping consisted of buying a Reese's Cup.
The one nice thing about our afternoon together is that we had the chance to talk about many things. One of the conversations had to do with her future and what she wants to do. She's ambitious and isn't afraid to try anything.
She's 14 and wants to accomplish many things. I told her, just because the world tells you what you should or shouldn’t accomplish by a certain age, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong if you don’t. Give it a try and see what happens.
She’s my little girl and I want to keep her forever, but I also know that I have to let her go...eventually. So, whether she wants to be independent at the age of 18 or 80, it won’t change a thing. I’ll always be her dad and I’ll always be there to help if she needs me.
I kind of think maybe she should be out of the house by the time she turns 30...Okay 35.
[via Mel Magazine]