It's the final day of September and we are about to check off another month as we get closer to 2021. For many of us, we are looking forward to the end of 2020 and my reply is "be careful what you wish for because you just might get it."

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The final day of September is also "International Translation Day." It's a day to celebrate St. Jerome the Bible translator, who is considered the patron saint of translators. When it comes to trying to figure out what it means, nothing could be more true then when it comes to marriage.

If you're married, then you know it can feel like you and your spouse are speaking two different languages. One thing that I've learned is that marriage isn't for the weak of heart.

If marriage was easy then everyone would do it...Wait almost everyone has been married at one time or another. 50% of first time marriages end in divorce, 65% of second marriages, and nearly 70% of third marriages end the same way.

What that tells me is that instead of trying to change your spouse, maybe you need to change you. Believe me, you'll be happier in the long run so don't let them make you miserable.

Okay, that sounds heavy so let's end on a lighter note. What she/he says and it's translation.

She says:

I'll be ready in a minute: You still have time to take a short nap.

Let's talk: Agree with me, it'll be quicker and better for you, especially if you want loving later.

He says:

I'll be home in a minute. It means the exact same thing as when she says that she'll be ready in a minute.

Let's talk: I'm trying to show you that I'm a caring person...and hoping for loving later.

Remember the only person that you can truly change in your relationship is you. Trying to change them can be a waste of time and energy.

If your spouse is saying that you should love God and love people but it doesn't include you, then you might be with the wrong person. If you're having problems, maybe this can help.