So are you at a place that you never intended to be? If someone said that you would end up here, you would say "NO WAY."

Well here's something I heard that opened up my eyes. It was from Andy Stanley. He said: When you are where you don't want to be it's because you did what you wanted to do.....Yes, I'll let you read that statement again.

Think about that, whether it's your money, marriage or career.

Are you in debt? You wanted to make it a better Christmas for everyone around you and now you're paying the price....literally.

Marriage or relationships, well that's even tougher. You want it to be better but you're just hanging on. Is the last thing your spouse sees at night and the first thing they reach for in the morning the phone and not you? OUCH!

Here's the other problem. We go to those who will tell us what we want to hear, so then we'll do what WE want to do.....and then we find ourselves where we don't want to be....again.

So do we fix it? NO, we find someone else to blame and then wonder why we are in the same spot as last year....and the year before and the year before.

So here's a better idea. Write down 3 things you wish you had been doing all along and start doing them because DOING makes all the difference.

Not only will you be making a difference for yourself but everyone around you wins too. Still not sure what to do? Don't worry, I'm sure there are plenty of people around you that have started your list for you all ready.

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