Today is Halloween and you've got a million and one things you've got to get done and the last thing on your mind is the trick-or-treaters who will be visitng your house tonight.

You've got to get the kids up and off to school and then get yourself ready and off to work. You've got a meeting today and you know the boss is going to ride you for one thing or another. You've got a kid who needs to get to sports practice after school and another who needs to get to dance class. You've got to make dinner. You've got to sit down and pay the bills because God knows, they're not going to pay themselves. And then, just as soon as you sit down at the end of your long day, the bell is going to ring and you're to have to drag yourself out of the first chaos free moment of your day only to hand out candy to a kid who takes a really long time digging through the bowl, but walks away without anything and then to another kid who takes a piece of candy, but doesn't even say thank you.

It's easy to get frustrated, especially after having your own chaotic day, but what you might not know is that little kid standing at your door without a costume could be autistic. Or maybe they have a sensory issue. Maybe every other person on your block has made a less than nice comment to that kid about the fact they're not wearing a costume. Before you say something, remember it might not be their fault.

Remember that the kid who takes candy and but doesn't say "trick-or-treat" or "thank you" might be non-verbal. And the kid who looks at your bowl and then turns away without picking out a piece? He might be diabetic or have an allergy and not able to find something your bowl that he can safely eat.

Before you let the frustrations of your day out on the little ones ringing your bell tonight, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you can be the person who makes a difference in that kid's life by being kind and patient.